In my last article, I discussed how best to prepare for an upcoming doctor's appointment. Within this article I will be continuing this topic as I give you some hints on how to best handle going to the doctor with an adult child present.

Within a day or two prior to your scheduled appointment, you may want to have a family meeting with your adult child/children regarding your current health status and concerns. Within the conversation, you will need to express how you would like to handle making any decisions that will be expected of you. It is also always a good idea to make sure that everyone involved is on the same wavelength as you.

Another way to handle this situation is to decide who will be the one to speak directly to the doctor regarding your health care needs. If you decide that you would like to speak to the doctor, then you will need to make it clear to your children that they are there for moral support (and to be a second set of ears listening for anything that you may miss) However, if you prefer that your role is to sit back and let your children speak for you, then, boundaries regarding what you would like them to say will need to be made.

Remember, just because you are more than age 60 does not mean that you all of a sudden can no longer make proper decisions for yourself. Reminding your children that you have the right to determine what happens next, is a way to express your independence and to also let them know that you love them. If all goes well, it is hopeful that they will respect your decisions and abide by your wishes.

Finally, once you have left the doctor's office, scheduling another family meeting is a good idea. This way, you can update those who were not present for the appointment. Decisions then can be made for the future.

If you would like to schedule an appointment with Cheryl L. Parcella, Elderly Outreach Worker, call (203) 891-2154, Ext. 1052.