Milford family offers $500 to find 84-year-old dad's lost wedding ring

Tom Green wore his late wife Alice Green's wedding ring every day.

Tom Green wore his late wife Alice Green’s wedding ring every day.

Tom Green wore his late wife Alice Green’s wedding ring every day. Photo: CONTRIBUTED PHOTO

The local family of an 84-year-old Monroe man is offering a $500 reward for the return of his late wife’s wedding ring, so dear to him that he wore it around his neck for 25 years and used it to communicate with her from the great beyond.

The man’s second wife of 20 years is even in on the hunt for the ring because she knows how much it means to him.

Tom wore Alice Greene’s wedding ring around his neck for all those years —even to bed and in the shower, his second wife of 20 years, Terry Greene, said.

“It’s very upsetting to him,” said Terry Greene, whose husband is battling Parkinson’s, making him unstable. “Losing the ring was one more thing — we didn’t really need that.”

Tom and Alice Greene married young, had eight children they raised in Milford, but were so in love they found time to slow dance in the house regularly, two of their daughters said. They were married 39 years when she died at 57.

“When you looked at them you could tell they were in love,” said daughter Mika Greene French of Milford. “When he lost the ring he was devastated. He still felt connected” to his late wife in wearing the ring.

He even talked to the ring as if it was Alice, asked it questions, got answers and kissed it at times.

Terry Greene said her husband didn’t talk to the ring as much around her, but she knew about and supported the special relationship he had with the band of gold.

She said he lost the ring in August, probably at the Bridgeport supermarket Price Rite, at a nearby McDonald’s, in a parking lot or possibly leaving a cookout in West Haven.

Terry Greene said they retraced their steps, visited countless pawn shops, spoke to people.

His daughters joined the search and Mika posted a picture of the ring on Facebook, including a popular Milford site and tag sale sites, but with no luck.

Now, Greene’s daughter Erica Greene Kiley, of Milford, is offering a $500 reward — no questions asked — in case someone found the ring and stashed it away or brought it to a pawn shop. If anyone has information about the ring to share they can email

Tom Greene, whose Parkinson’s makes communicating difficult, simply said: “They probably sold it for the gold.”

The wide gold band with intricate designs wasn’t Alice Greene’s original wedding ring — a jewelry lover, she surprised her husband by replacing it with the ornate ring.

When she died 25 years ago, a heartbroken Tom Greene put it on a chain around his neck and later his daughters chipped in to buy him a nice gold chain.

“It always kept my mother close to his heart,” French said.

Not only did he wear it 24/7 — except when he was traveling abroad because of fear of losing it — his daughters said, when visiting the cemetery, he would take it off, put it on his late wife’s grave, and talk to her through the ring.

When the close family was together he’d hold the ring and talk to his late wife through it, asking yes and no questions, such as if one of the adult children were sick: “Is Robin going to be OK?” “Do you know I’m sitting here with the girls?”

Both Kiley and French said the chain would move to answer the questions by the direction of the spinning and they all believed it could really be the beloved Alice Greene communicating.

“Whatever makes you feel better,” French said.

Kiley said the kids in their family had a “perfect childhood” growing up in Milford, and their father supported them through his own roofing company.

Kiley said she decided to offer a reward in a last ditch attempt because “we all felt the connection to that ring.”

“I can’t believe it’s gone,” she said.

Terry Greene said although her husband has a hard time communicating these days, he is still heartbroken about the ring.

“The chain was valuable, but it’s the ring that can’t be replaced,” she said.

Ironically, Terry Greene said, her husband has a gift of ESP for finding things — especially rings — but can’t access that gift these days. She said years ago he led people to their lost rings just on information that flowed to him.