Celebrate Valentine's Day? Local author offers tips on finding love

Why Can't I Find Love? Valentine's Day Tips for Singles While couples are celebrating Valentine's Day, many singles (50% of American adults) often feel the emotional pinch of their solo-lifestyle during this holiday of love.

Helping singles uncover what is interfering with their quest for love is what Ronnie Ann Ryan, Milford, CT-based Dating Coach does.

She's the author of “Why Can't I Find Love?” a book that explains over twenty negative beliefs and the powerful methods to transform them in order to help people get into the dating mindset needed to find love. “In order to attract a healthy, lasting relationship into your life, you need to be open and truly available to love”, says Ms. Ryan who dated thirty men in fifteen months to find her husband and married for the first time at 43.

Ryan says that she, like many people operate with assumptions that are not completely true, but these “toxic thoughts” get in the way of attracting a loving partner. Ms. Ryan offers tips that can help make over a single person's dating mindset in order to be open and truly available to love.

1. Say "goodbye" to negativity about dating. Recognize and make a list of the negative thoughts you have about dating, love, and the opposite sex. Evaluate which thoughts are just generalizations. Replace each thought consciously with a positive affirmation. For example, if you think love stinks, use a positive statement such as “Love makes the world go round”. Transform the toxic thought to eliminate it.

2. Be open to love. To attract love, you need to be open to it. As you notice people throughout your day, instead of criticizing them in your mind, wonder why they are lovable. This creates a powerful shift in attitude and perception. The next step for an open dating mindset is to be friendly. Be warm and easy to meet and your attraction for the opposite sex sky rockets.

3. The past doesn't predict the future. For singles that are divorced, just out of a long-term relationship, or have been in and out of multiple relationships, it's easy to feel the same thing could happen again. Review your relationship history, learn from it and heal in order to start over.

4. Take responsibility for creating the love life you want. According to a study conducted by AARP, only 16% of US singles between 40 and 70 are willing to do anything to change their single status. Beat the statistics by attending a singles dance, going to a meetup.com group or posting a profile on a dating site. Meeting other singles dramatically increases your chances of finding love. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed that you're looking for love.

Instead, let this romantic holiday traditionally celebrated by couples, inspire you to find love again. According to Ryan, “Share love with others, even if you aren't romantically involved. Be loving and you are bound to attract more love into your life.”

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