A Question of Etiquette: Valentine’s Day approaches

I love holidays and, admittedly, go overboard sometimes, so thought I’d check before following my desire to share the happiness. Is it okay to give my new (male) boss (I’m female) a Valentine?   Probably it isn’t okay to do this. Valentine’s Day has a sentimental component to it, so even if you find a humorous “boss” card, it still … read more

A Question of Etiquette: Hands out for a hand-out?

I feel like every time I turn around, somebody is expecting a tip, just for doing his or her job, like putting my take-out food into a bag, or pumping gas into my car. Most recently, I ordered a take-out meal from a place that offers curbside pickup. When the meal was brought to our car, the employee stood there, … read more

A Question of Etiquette: Tip the movers: how much?

We are moving this spring and are trying to figure out our budget so that we are prepared for all costs. Our current question is whether we tip the packers and the movers and if so, how much? You do tip members of both a packing crew and a moving crew. Packers are tipped around $10 to $15 each. If … read more

A Question of Etiquette: For grandparent gifts, offer help

My mother-in-law did it again – gave my four- and five-year-olds each a card with $20 in it as a Christmas gift. Is there a way to tell her that this means nothing to them and a small present would be so much more meaningful? I’d love for them all to have a more personal relationship and cash, at my … read more