I was watching an interview with the cast of Downton Abbey and they were talking about their manners expert and how he guided them through various social situations and table-manner uncertainties. They mentioned one episode where asparagus was served and they weren’t sure whether to pick it up with their fingers or use a fork. The expert wasn’t available, so they cut it up and pretended it was green beans, just to be safe. Is it ever correct to pick up asparagus with your fingers?
Interestingly, asparagus can be considered a finger food if it is perfectly plain. If it has sauce or is buttered, you use a fork. Most people use a fork, since asparagus is usually served on a plate with other foods that are eaten with a fork and it seems odd to use fingers for just one thing on the plate, but you would not be wrong to pick it up as long as it is not covered in hollandaise or other sauce.